Archives for June 2010

Are we adoption material?

We sent off the application for our Home Study today.  For those of you who aren’t familiar with a Home Study (don’t feel bad, I didn’t know about them until recently), it’s a mandatory – and expensive – step in the adoption process.   Basically, a Home Study is a report written by a state approved Social Worker who has met the prospective parents several times, visited the prospective parents home and investigated their medical, criminal, health, family and home background.  The purpose of this detailed report is to help the court determine whether the prospective parents are qualified to adopt a child or not.

Even though we may not get to meet with a Social Worker for a few weeks and the report can take up to six weeks to complete, this is a huge milestone for us.

I hope we are adoption material. 🙂

One Step Closer…

…to welcoming a baby into our home and family because we have chosen an adoption company to work with!

As we’ve been looking and researching adoption agencies/companies over the past several months, we have been looking for a Christian organization that has reasonable costs and has a passion for adoption on both ends – for birth parents and adoptive families.  One would think this wouldn’t be hard to come by, but sadly most adoption agencies/companies and attorneys use adoption as a way to make money, and a lot of it.   The corruption I have come across in the adoption world in this short amount of time is heart-breaking and frustrating.  All that to say, we have spent quite of bit of time and energy researching a place that would be a good fit for us.

But God.

He connected us to Adoption Answers in truly a special way.  In late April I received a random phone call from a lady who works at Adoption Answers (one of my mom’s friends gave her our number) and the timing could not have been more perfect.  It’s not by accident or coincidence she called on the day she did, God totally orchestrated that. After praying for a couple months about Adoption Answers and meeting the lady that works there since we’ve been in California, we have decided to go through them for our adoption.

There are a few things that we love about them so far…  First of all, they are a Christian organization, the women that work there are called to work with birthmothers and adoptive parents.  They walk through life with each of the birthmom’s in a very personal way as they make the difficult, life-changing decision to set up an adoption plan. A few of things they do with the birthmoms are ultrasound appointments, taking them out to eat for the notorious pregnancy cravings, counseling, going maternity clothes shopping, help them finish school and set-up a plan for a successful future, provide housing, if necessary, and the list goes on.  They monitor very closely how money is spent during pregnancy (maternity clothes, food, housing) and discern the birthmother’s needs on an individual basis, preventing adoptive parents from being taken advantage of financially. Adoption Answers is located in Sourthern California, so we like the convenience of that, too.  Most importantly, they share Jesus with as many of the girls as they can.  I’m sure many of these girls are in a difficult, desperate place in life and I know the only One that will truly offer them hope and a future is Jesus.  I have been praying that our birthmom, whoever or wherever she is, either knows or comes to know Jesus as her Savior and King.

To say that we are excited is an understatement!  There is a good chance we could be parents in the next year or so!!

Family

Dan and I are in California with my family for the next couple weeks helping out with my grandparents and visiting Dan’s grandmother.   Yesterday, we got to go see my brother and his family and my cousin and her family.  It’s always great to be with all of them.

On the topic of adoption…

Since our decision to pursue adoption, I’ve been wanting to know more about adoption in the Bible and God’s heart towards adoption.  I recently read an article about adoption in the Bible and how it is always spoken of favorably. Moses, who went on to lead the nation of Israel out of Egypt, was adopted by one of Pharaoh’s daughters.  The beautiful Esther was adopted by her cousin after her parents passed away.  God put her in a position of influence and used her to bring deliverance to the Jewish people.  Jesus, who was super-naturally conceived by the Holy Spirit, was adopted and raised by His earthly father, Joseph.

“Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved.”
Ephesians 1:4-6

“For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, ‘Abba, Father.'”
Romans 8:15

In and through Jesus Christ, we are adopted by God into His family.  Just as an adoptive family chooses which child to adopt, we are hand-picked and accepted by God to be a part of His family.  This is a concept or attribute of God that I have always known and been blessed by, but I have a feeling that when Dan and I are literally handed a child that is not ours biologically, this attribute of God is going to be more real than ever. We will know what it’s like to instantly love a child unconditionally that isn’t from our blood, to absolutely adore a baby who came from a complete stranger, to see our family embrace a child that we chose, just how the body of Christ embraces each other no matter where or what they came from.  Hopefully, we will have a deeper understanding of God’s unconditionally love for us, and once again be reminded of how deep Jesus’ love it and our security in Him.